Trigger
A trigger can open a doorway to deeper understanding. Explore how awareness, compassion, forgiveness and thoughtful boundaries help us process our reactions and return to the work, relationships and life deserving our attention.
Decide What Earns Your Attention
A trigger is the door to a deeper understanding.
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An interruption can show up without warning.
You're moving through your day with real clarity. Your priorities are set, your confidence feels grounded, and you're making steady progress on work you care about. Then an unexpected encounter interrupts your rhythm.
A comment. A conversation. An image. A criticism. A breach of trust.
Another person might shrug it off, but it reaches you differently. Your focus slips, your energy shifts, and work that felt easy an hour ago suddenly takes effort.
An outside event has disturbed what you worked hard to build inside. We call that a trigger. Often, the trigger is only the beginning of the conversation.
When the Reaction Surprises Us
At times, the most unsettling part is how deeply an experience affected us.
We may have spent years building confidence, perspective, discipline, and peace. So when an experience touches an unexpectedly tender place, we ask ourselves: Why does this still get to me? Haven't I already worked through this?
Being affected and having done the work can exist side by side. Growth brings awareness of what's going on inside us when disappointment, disrespect, or hurt show up. A disturbance can show you where your inner work is being tested.
Listen to What the Trigger Reveals
A trigger can carry information. It might point to a limit that matters deeply to you, challenge a value you hold about yourself, expose an expectation you didn't know you were carrying, or show you a relationship that needs more discernment.
Get curious about the reaction. What happened? What did it awaken in me? What boundary or response makes sense here?
One question may matter most: What am I unwilling to let this take from the rest of my day?
That question hands the authority back to you.
What Difficult Encounters Can Teach Us
Some of the most difficult encounters in our lives can become unexpected teachers. Our reaction can reveal parts of ourselves that comfort never needed to expose.
A difficult interaction may show us where a boundary belongs. It may reveal what we value, what still hurts, what we have outgrown, or where we have given another person more responsibility for our internal state than they should carry.
Seen this way, the question begins to change. Alongside Why did this happen to me? we can ask: What is this experience showing me about myself?
The answer may invite forgiveness. Forgiveness of ourselves for reacting. Forgiveness of another person without excusing the behavior. Compassion for ourselves while we work through what was awakened. Compassion for another person that leaves the healing of what belongs to them in their hands.
Forgiveness and compassion both live comfortably alongside boundaries and discernment.
When we move from immediate reaction toward intentional response, we reclaim our ability to choose how the experience continues within us. What enters our day is often out of our hands, and we can grow more deliberate about directing our attention.
When We Lead Through Service
People who lead through service notice others. We recognize who feels left out, make room for different perspectives, and encourage, guide, and support.
Robert K. Greenleaf's philosophy of servant leadership placed service at the center of leadership, emphasizing the growth and well-being of the people and communities being served. His work gives language to something many service-oriented people instinctively understand: caring for others asks us to remain aware of them.
That awareness is a strength, and it grows stronger with discernment. We can care deeply about another person's development and still feel the impact when trust is broken, intentions are questioned, or consideration goes unreturned.
Service includes boundaries. Empathy allows us to understand another person's experience without taking responsibility for it. A thoughtful boundary protects our capacity to care, contribute, and continue serving with intention.
Protect What You've Cultivated
Your attention, creativity, confidence, peace, and judgment are valuable. Protecting them calls for thoughtfulness about what gets ongoing access to your inner world.
A comment can earn a moment of your thinking without earning an hour. An opinion can be heard without taking up residence in how you see yourself. A difficult interaction can end without claiming the rest of your day. A misunderstanding can stand without an explanation.
Some situations call for a conversation. Others call for a boundary or a little distance. And in some moments, you simply decide: I'm not carrying this any farther.
The Return
A trigger can feel instant. An event occurs, and the emotion follows right behind it.
Awareness opens a pause, and in that pause we can say, That hurt. That crossed a line. That touched a place I need to look at. We can feel the emotion without allowing it to decide what happens next.
Within that pause, we choose our next response.
Then we come back. To our work. To the people we love. To the ideas waiting for us. To ourselves.
Coming back honors what happened and lets us choose how much space it occupies in our future.
A Personal Note
This reflection was inspired by an experience that threw me off more than I expected. I found myself wondering how an outside event had managed to interrupt my peace.
Writing helped me see what my reaction was trying to tell me. It reminded me of the value of boundaries and discernment, and of protecting growth.
I believe meaningful lessons often arrive at unexpected moments. Why an experience hits us so hard often becomes clear later, and when we're willing to look at what it awakened, an uncomfortable moment can deepen our awareness.
Being affected does not erase the ground I've gained.
I can move through this. I can learn from it. I can honor what it showed me. I can forgive without surrendering the boundary.
And then I can return to the work, the people, the creativity and the life that deserve the best of my attention.
The trigger may arrive without my permission. What stays with me is my choice.
Your Turn
Think of a recent moment that interrupted your focus. What did it awaken in you? What boundary or response fits? And what will you decide earns your attention for the rest of today?
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BEGIN
Every morning waits for you. Explore how mindfulness, gratitude and everyday choices shape the care we bring to ourselves, our work and the people we serve.
Every Morning Waits for You
Rise each morning and
embrace your big, beautiful life.
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Before the messages and responsibilities arrive, there is a moment to consider how you will meet the day.
Your health. Your mindset. Your priorities. Your attention.
Our lives are finite. Each day offers hours to contribute, create, nurture, serve and appreciate the people around us.
How we spend those hours reflects the patterns guiding our choices. Some are consciously chosen; others develop through experience and repetition. They shape what we notice, how we interpret events and the way we speak to ourselves.
Our view of the world reveals something about our beliefs, expectations and sense of possibility. Paying attention to our thoughts gives us an opportunity to consider whether they support the life we want to create.
Awareness Creates Choice
Zen teacher Thich Nhat Hanh taught mindfulness as a practice woven into daily life, through our breathing, our listening and the care we bring to our words.
We can apply his teaching to our next interaction.
Before greeting a customer or answering a colleague, take one deliberate breath. Give the person your attention. Listen fully. Choose a tone and response that support understanding.
During a busy day, a brief pause gives us space to reconsider an assumption and choose a thoughtful response.
Begin your day with three words:
I get to…
Rise.
Care for my body.
Contribute.
Encourage another person.
Notice something beautiful.
These words invite us to recognize the opportunity within our responsibilities.
On the frontline, contribution takes practical forms: answering a question, preparing an order, greeting a customer, supporting a colleague or offering reassurance.
Each interaction holds the potential to strengthen trust, restore confidence or make someone’s day easier.
“I get to” brings the value of our participation into view.
The Privilege of Noticing
Our senses connect us to the texture of daily life.
Sunlight crossing a room. A familiar voice. The first sip of coffee. A bird arriving outside the window. Fresh air in your lungs during a daily walk.
Familiar experiences hold beauty worth our attention.
Pausing to appreciate them can deepen our enjoyment of the life we are living.
Attentiveness enriches what is already here.
Your Signature
Every day offers choices worthy of consideration.
How will I care for myself?
Where will I place my attention?
Whom will I encourage?
What deserves my energy?
The answers take form through our actions. Over time, they shape our work, relationships and the way people experience us.
Your service, creativity and kindness leave an impression uniquely your own.
Your signature.
Choose with care. Follow through with grace.
How will you sign off on this day?
A Personal Note
Most mornings begin for me with a cup of coffee and the birds outside my window.
The birdhouses pictured with this reflection were inspired by gifts from my brother. They remind me of the care of family and friends, and the privilege of seeing beauty in something so personal.
A cardinal arriving for breakfast, morning light across the grass and the warmth of my cup bring me into the day with gratitude. I get to be here for it.
With each morning we are given,
We get to begin again.
Rise each morning and embrace your big, beautiful life.
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Gray
Gray is a reflective exploration of awareness, emotional maturity, perspective, and the freedom that emerges when we create space for deeper understanding and meaningful human connection.
“Emotional maturity often lives within openness, observation and the willingness to remain curious.”
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There are moments in life when an impromptu conversation changes the way you see yourself, others, and the patterns you have carried for years without fully realizing it.
An unexpected trip to Boulder, CO created space for one of those deeper conversations with my sister-in-law, Jane.
We have always shared meaningful discussions whenever we spend time together, however, this conversation carried a higher level of reflection.
It felt like slow drilling through emotional fascia that had hardened over time.
Perceptions.
Protective mechanisms.
Conditioning and relational patterns that had become so familiar, they eventually felt automatic.
As the conversation unfolded, there was a realization that once certain patterns become visible, there is no need to return to blame, defensiveness, or old narratives.
There is simply awareness….
Mindfulness of how we move through the world.
Insight of how our intentions are experienced by others.
Consciousness of the ways we communicate care, create distance, preserve space, or protect ourselves without always realizing it.
One of the most meaningful reflections for me, centered around how easy it can be to live deeply inside our own perspective while missing how our actions, silence, habits, or patterns may be interpreted by those around us.
Not through the lens of right or wrong.
Simply through different lived experiences and projections.
What felt especially important about this realization was understanding that care is not only aligned with intention. Servant leadership is also defined as holding space, flexibility, and the ability to remain open to another person's perspective without immediately filtering it through our own internal framework.
At the end of the conversation, we recognized the distinction between black-and-white thinking and the expansiveness of gray.
This revelation inspired me to share the concept with you.
Gray holds fluidity.
It allows multiple viewpoints to coexist while making room for curiosity, reflection, and emotional nuance. It softens rigid interpretation and deepens our capacity to truly listen and gain deep understanding.
Wisdom lives inside that openness.
A more expansive lens allows people to feel acknowledged within their own experiences while remaining centered in care, honesty, and mindfulness.
This conversation also revealed another level of detachment and freedom of mind and spirit.
A genuine release of…
needing immediate certainty.
over-identifying with our own perspective and possessions.
A release that creates space for observation without judgment.
Perhaps that is where growth begins; through expanded awareness….
the moments where we are willing to look at ourselves from another angle with honesty, compassion, and curiosity.
Reflecting on this dialog, I am deeply grateful.
Grateful for the generosity of Jane to hold this sacred space to explore the depths of embedded conditioning.
Humbled by reminder that emotional intelligence often lives inside the willingness to remain open, observant, and the willingness to walk in the shoes of others to serve at one’s highest capacity.
‘Emergence begins the moment we are willing to observe from a higher perspective.”
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This newfound awareness opens the door to expansiveness and a deeper sense of freedom within our divine spirit.
It encourages us to move through life with greater understanding, expressing ourselves more meaningfully, engaging others with openness and emotional depth, and loosening rigid interpretation to create more room for connection, insight, and humanity.
Within that openness, there is a special kind of liberation.
A freedom that allows evolution without abandoning ourselves, welcomes authentic expression without excessive self-protection, and remains grounded in awareness, acceptance, and continual expansion.
Gray feels less like uncertainty and more like emotional maturity.
A state of mind where openness, adaptability, compassion, and discernment can coexist harmoniously.
Perhaps some of the most meaningful expressions of servant leadership may emerge from that place.
Dedication
In celebration of my sister-in-law, Jane Drury:
Truth seeker. Conscious observer. Nurturer. Warrior. Veteran. Friend. Mentor. Sister. Wife. Dog Mom. Aunt. Cousin. Daughter.
Jane embodies the rare ability to embrace your humanity with compassion, authenticity, and support.
In Jane’s presence, there is always enrichment. At times through humor, often through reflection, and frequently through thoughtful conversation that creates the opportunity to see ourselves with greater clarity.
Just ask Jane.
Explore the many ways Jane creates space for reflection, perspective, emotional awareness, and personal expansion.
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Death by Pizza
Discover how everyday comfort habits can quietly erode self-awareness and presence. This reflection explores the subtle “quiet demise” of self-connection, why our behaviors shape our cravings, and how conscious choice can break the cycle. Learn to reclaim presence, nourish yourself deeply, and set a powerful intention for the new year.
True alignment requires being in tune with your breath. Pausing before you reach for the thing that promises comfort. - CG Excellence
Dedication
To my friend and colleague, Terry Thompson, Founder of Blue Jeans and Berries. An experienced nutritionist and wellness coach for over 15-years who has helped countless people transform toxic habits into healthy, life-giving rituals. Terry’s philosophy is simple yet profound: real change begins with awareness, and real nourishment begins with self-respect. Through her gentle wisdom and practical guidance, she reminds us that health is not punishment, it’s peace.
We all have our version of “pizza.” That one thing we reach for when life feels too heavy, too empty, or too uncertain to sit with. It could be the late-night scrolling, the glass of wine, the endless Netflix queue, or the literal pizza, comfort in a box. Warm. Predictable. Rewarding.
In that fleeting moment, it works. The ache softens. The noise fades. The brain gets its hit of dopamine, and we call it relaxing.
Sometimes, comfort is the very thing keeping us stuck, soothing us on the surface, while quietly suffocating our alignment.
Self abandonment happens in slices. Small, seemingly harmless choices.
One extra slice of pizza.
One extra glass of wine.
One extra hour talking about things that drain you.
One more day ignoring the inner voice asking for rest and clarity.
The Spell
Overeating, over-drinking, over-sharing, or over-extending ourselves are behaviors of anesthetize awareness.
They create a hypnotic dulling of consciousness, a gentle, socially accepted trance that keeps us from what’s real.
The human ego is clever. Its job is to keep us feeling safe, even when the safety is borrowed, fake, or temporary.
What we believe in the moment:
Everything is fine.
You deserve this.
It’s not a big deal.
You can deal with it later.
Repetition of these behaviors induce a subtle hypnotic state.
A soft sedation.
A muted consciousness.
A gentle fog that keeps you from noticing what’s really going on.
Your mind becomes dulled just enough to avoid discomfort but alert enough to function.
It feels harmless and normal.
Until it doesn’t.
Wake-Up Call
Hypnosis always breaks and consciousness returns.
Once it does, you meet the evidence of every numbing choice:
The weight gain.
The exhaustion.
The hangover.
The emotional regret from oversharing.
The self-betrayal from saying yes when you meant no.
The physical or emotional clutter that accumulated while you weren’t fully present.
The body and your life always tell the truth later, even if the ego felt “safe” in the moment.
You may ask yourself, “how did I get here?”
This is merely a reflection of self-neglect, somewhere along the way, the need for comfort or distraction, overpowered self-care.
Quiet Demise
Death by Pizza is the death of presence and the death of the self you abandon while trying to cope.
The tragedy is not the pizza.
It is the loss of relationship with yourself.
Once you see the pattern, you can’t unsee it and you regain the ability to choose differently.
This is about returning to consciousness, one choice at a time.
Conscious choice breaks the spell.
You are not defined by the slices that brought you here.
You are defined by the moment you decide to come back.
And that moment is always available.
As James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, reminds us,“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” The journey back to presence isn’t about one heroic leap, but about shifting the small, daily choices that shape our lives
Illusion of Comfort
We live in a culture that confuses ease with peace. We’ve been sold the idea that self-care is consumption, that relaxation is distraction, and that numbing is the same as nourishing.
Pizza isn’t the problem. The problem is when the pizza becomes a pattern, a repeated escape hatch from our own truth.
Each slice, scroll, sip, or “just one more episode” becomes a micro-decision away from the discomfort that could actually deliver us to growth.
We are dying from disconnection, not the pizza.
Toxic Comforts
There’s a full spectrum of these “comfort toxins.”
Physical forms include sugar, alcohol, and processed foods.
Emotionally, they show up as people-pleasing, procrastination, or perfectionism.
Spiritually, they appear as overworking, over-giving, or staying busy to avoid being still.
They all share one thing in common: they sedate our self-awareness. They trick the nervous system into safety while the soul starves for meaning. It’s death by a thousand micro-comforts, quiet, polite, and socially acceptable.
Shift
True alignment requires being in tune with your breath. Pausing before you reach for the thing that promises comfort.
Rest over escape? Movement over sugar? Truth over distraction? Connection over comfort?
When you are present, you choose what actually nourishes you. When you are absent, you consume what numbs you.
Waking up from the spell of unconscious choices can sting.
For me, it was the awkward walk of shame, carrying my empty pizza box to the community trash, wishing I could toss the regret along with it.
The antidote to self-betrayal is actually these pivoting moments of remorse.
It’s the courage to look at your “pizza moments” as signals, reminders that something inside you is asking for attention, comfort, or care.
When you begin to pause and question your behavior in the moment, you reclaim the rich, raw, beautiful fullness of living.
As one of my favorite writers, Geneen Roth, states “We decide, albeit unconsciously, that the pain of unconsciousness is better than the effort to increase awareness.”
Her words ring true for anyone who’s ever reached for comfort instead of presence. The journey isn’t about fixing yourself through force or willpower. As Geneen also writes: “Freedom from obsession is not about something you do; it’s about knowing who you are and recognizing what sustains you and what exhausts you.”
CG Excellence Reflection
What is your version of “pizza”?
When do you tend to reach for it, and what are you really seeking in that moment?
What would alignment feel and taste like instead?
New Year Contemplation
As we approach a new year, it’s natural to think about resolutions, fresh starts, and the habits we want to leave behind.
Let’s not punish ourselves for old patterns. We are now waking up to endless possibilities, one conscious choice at a time.
Remember this, not only are we what we eat, our behaviors dictate our cravings. Each time we reach for comfort on autopilot, we reinforce the cycle, making it easier to crave the familiar and harder to choose what truly serves us.
Here is a fresh approach to setting an intention for the new year:
Make presence your only resolution.
Choose alignment over autopilot, one “pizza moment” at a time.
Let your cravings become invitations to real nourishment, growth, and self-respect.
Let this be the year you choose to live, fully, intentionally, and awake for yourself.
Living with this mindset, you become a magnet for all that serves the best of you.
The Brilliance Within
If you’re ready to transform comfort habits into life-giving rituals, connect with Terry Thompson for personalized wellness coaching and practical guidance founded on compassion and self-respect.
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